How To Ask Friends For Help Moving The Right Way
Getting some help from friends and family before a move is a time-honored tradition. Whether you work with expert movers and packers or try to plan a do-it-yourself effort, there are plenty of reasons to call those closest to you in for an assist.
When you ask for some support when moving, you should try to make the experience manageable, predictable and rewarding for those who provide valuable assistance. Keep this advice in mind to make sure valuable relationships don't suffer after you ask for help.
Provide plenty of notice and direction
"Ask for moving help well in advance to make things easier for friends and family."
One familiar trope - or horror story - of friends asking friends to move involves last-minute requests and disorganized homes that involve hours upon hours of hard labor. If you plan to bring together some additional help as you move from your old home to your new one, take special care to be conscientious.
Ask friends and family well ahead of time to avoid the last-minute pressure that comes with a lack of advance notice - and to make it more likely that more people can chip in. This courtesy starts things off on the right foot, displaying a sense of respect when you make the request.
Just as you should plan ahead when asking for assistance during a move, you should also have a general plan for how each person can contribute. It's important to not pass off the heaviest work to friends while you simply oversee and direct - participate whenever possible and take the lead on the most difficult jobs.
You should also keep a time limit in mind. Asking your friends and family to pack, load and unload is probably too big of a request (unless they owe you some major favors). Separate the work into manageable jobs and limit the expected time commitment to a few hours as opposed to an entire day.
Make sure there's a light at the end of the tunnel
While accepting an offer to help a friend move doesn't include any promise of payment, it's only fair to reward the people providing valuable assistance. You don't have to break the bank on such efforts, but a tangible reward like a hearty meal after the work finishes - pizza is a classic because it's widely delivered and easily shared, not to mention delicious - is a good place to start.
This is another opportunity to express sincere gratitude for the time and effort that your friends and family provide. On a more basic level, a reward also shows that you're a reasonable, thoughtful friend who doesn't expect to call in big favors without offering something in return.